I started to have this dicussion on another blog and it began to ring so true to me. We know that girls are or guys can be golddiggers. Using a guy for his money. But did you know that some girls (maybe guys too, but I'll stick to what I know) are with guys to make themselves feel better. You tend to see a really slender girl with a fat guy. On her own she feels fat and flawed. But with her fat boyfriend she feels better, she feels tiny. Sometimes you see a beautiful women with a unattractive man.And you think to yourself what does she see in him. Well she sees how much prettier she looks standing next to him. She can compair what she thought were her flaws to her boyfriend's flaws and she feels better about herself.
I can relate to this theroy, this way of thinking but I am not so overboard. I rarely go out with a guy skinnier than me. First of all nobody wants to cuddle with a stick, a girl wants big strong arms around her. I would feel so huge laying next to a tiny guy. I of course want to walk around with my boyfriend next to me and not have people see me as big compaired to him. I want to feel skinny, therefore I chose a guy bigger than me. Im not talking over weight, like some girls might choose. I mean he just has to be bigger than me.
Its funny how self concious we can be, we chose someone who makes us feel comfortable with our bodies.But if they knew what reasons were on our mind for chosing them, it would probably make them feel less comfortable with themselves.
Let me say one last thing. If I met a guy who was wonderful and sweet and smart and I liked him, I would go out with him if he was skinner than me. But most of the times, I look for guys who are bigger.Taller. And persue them.
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I think, if a guy finds out why you're really with him, he would not trip if you're with him to feel more safe. If you're with him to seem a little smaller in size is okay too. But, to be with a guy too improve your looks is wrong!
In the end, I feel that all this talk of being with someone for all the wrong reasons is just crazy. we shouldn't concern are self with petty things like this. If we like a person, we should just go for it no matter what. But of course, i'm just a dude. What do I know? :)
I think a guy can make you feel secure even without being built. I bet there are a ton of guys out there who are built, but have 'wussy' tendacies.
For example, being built, but having a high pitched voice. How secure would you as a woman be with someone like that? Or someone who, though looking strong, acts like a wuss?
I think, now this is my opinion, women care more about how make them FEEL as opposed to how they look. Men on the other hand hold LOOKS as most important. I think that explains why you see girls with 'unattractive' guys - those guys know how to make them FEEL good.
Meh, I could be wrong, but I doubt it. ;)
I've had a boyfriend a lot skinnier than me... and I hated it. I know where you are coming from about the whole thing though. When I was younger (around 15)... I would date guys a lot older than me... not really because I liked them a whole lot, but it made me feel "cool" that I was with an older guy. So stupid now that I look back on it! I have also have had a boyfriend that I thought looked SO much better than my "level of looks"... and it always made me feel ugly compared to him. :/
I love a man who can make me laugh until my tummy aches! :-)
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